Who the hell do i think i am?

I'm a co-conspirator, a student, a teacher, a voice for the trees and the animals, a healer.
I am part of the solution.
(and spoiler alert... so are you.)

At least ones that don't explicitly connect to a "why" that is deeper than individual happiness. Don't get me wrong — of course I want you to be happy and have a great life! But I also really want us to elevate the conversation.

When I published the first iteration of this website, I was boxing myself in as a traditional life coach (albeit with a less-traditional background as a psychotherapist). And sure, I love the idea of helping my sisters get out of their own way and find greater joy and peace in their lives.

But something didn't feel right. I wasn't excited to share it. And I knew that I was watering myself down — or as one of my mentors Karen Kenney says, "trying to Cirque du Soleil myself" to seem approachable and not scare anyone away. The truth is, over the past couple of years, something has been gnawing at me.

(Oh, and now's the point where, if you're offended by colorful language, you may want to stop reading.) 

Hey, y'all —

I'm Valerie.

and i have to admit...I'm kind of tired of conversations about "manifesting your best life."

it's time to elevate the conversation.

It feels, to me, like there is far too much separation in the personal development world between our own psychological/spiritual growth, and our growth as a society and temporary residents of this planet that is our very life source. 

No, it's not useful to crush ourselves with the pressure of trying to fix or change the world as one individual. But if we don't elevate the purpose of and conversation around our personal growth... then what's the fucking point of any of that work?

Of course, our own pure enjoyment of life is meaningful— believe me, as an enneagram 7, I am all about pleasure and enjoyment. Life should be FUN. As Kurt Vonnegut said, "I tell you, we are here on Earth to fart around, and don't let anybody tell you different." 

But in addition to farting around... I think if you've read this far, then you also feel compelled to leave this big, beautiful rock better than you found it. 

What , my dears, is 
the  fucking  point? 

My  Story

You may wanna grab a cup of tea, because I have a lot to say here.

I grew up squarely middle class in small town Texas— though, of course, "middle class" is a very relative term when you take a global view. Suffice to say, I've had a lot of privilege in my life, and I now see how I've unconsciously used that privilege to keep social and environmental concerns at a distance.

Because I was sheltered from many of the worst realities of the world, I had a choice of whether or not I wanted to face them... unlike the vast majority of the world's population, who lack that choice.

By the time I went back to school to get my Masters in Social Work, tragedy had only truly struck my life in ways that felt personal rather than connected to those larger issues — mental illness gave me some hell for a while, and claimed the lives of two of my family members.

Though I wanted to "make a difference," I was interested in doing so at the personal or individual level (psychotherapy) rather than at the larger scale, so I chose the clinical track during my graduate program (which resulted in some serious side-eye from my Social Justice professor... #cantblamehim) 

I don't regret that decision, as building my practice has been such a joy — but the gnawing guilt of my disengagement with larger issues — or at times, performative engagement — is no longer congruent with who I am and am becoming.

As I've grown and matured, my intention and commitment moving forward is to more fully integrate these aspects of myself and my values— and, through my work, support others in navigating that integration, too. 

Over the past decade, I've consumed a lot of content related to personal / spiritual growth and entrepreneurship. In recent years, I've felt increasingly uncomfortable with how disconnected most of those narratives are from the bigger picture.

I'm definitely not saying that I'm doing it all "right" and trying to judge those who aren't — I know I have a long way to go. But it's just a fact that many of those conversations neglect to take into account larger issues of privilege, oppression, and alienation from our earthly source. I'll save details and examples for future blog posts and podcast episodes. 

I have a lot to learn, and I'm committed to showing up and doing that work together. As someone who doesn't plan to be a mother, my work and relationships are my legacy, and I take them very seriously. 

(Well, I also have to laugh at the absurdity of life, hence the name of my podcast, because we couldn't survive in this insane world without the ability to laugh at ourselves!) 


If you're still reading at this point, you deserve a fucking cookie or something. Great job. Also, I have a hunch that you get it and that you're one of my people.

I'm so glad you're here, and I so look forward to navigating this messy journey with you.

Get  to  know me...

1. fave podcast

Buffering the vampire slayer

4. fave yoga asana

peaceful warrior

2. my fictional identity

Miranda / phoebe hybrid

5. love language

memes

3. top #womancrush

Kristen bell

tell me more!

Get  to  Know me...

6. not guilty pleasure

the spice girls

8. fave snack

homemade vegan
queso and chips

7. move it move it

orangetheory

10. superpower

interpretive dancing

8. Fave saturday activity

hiking + reading

go back

My Timeline

The journey so far...

2002

Got on the path of recovery from anxiety + an eating disorder

2006

First started practicing yoga in college - was the yoga DVD queen ;D

2007

Started my first full-time job at a PR and marketing agency in Austin

2010

Went to grad school at Texas for my Masters in Clinical Social Work

2016

 Completed yoga teacher training; went vegan for the animals

2017

Opened my private practice as a psychotherapist in Nashville; started teaching at Inner Light Yoga

2018

Started my podcast, "What's the F***ing Point?"

2019

Launched this website to expand my work outside the therapy room!

Moved to Tennessee to work in residential treatment for eating disorders & trauma

2014

Got married to Chris,
5th grade teacher
& drummer of our
rock band!

2012

One

and I also laugh with my clients. We have to be able to laugh at ourselves, y'all, or we'll truly go cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs.

i get shit done,

Two

If I won the lottery, I'd probably get two more graduate degrees and constantly go to trainings. I love synthesizing what I learn & sharing it with my peeps.🤓

I am a lifelong learner.

three

because at the end of the day, we are animals — and we're really good at forgetting that.

I focus on bridging the mind-body gap,

four

And I'm not interested in conversations about personal growth that stop at the personal.

I believe we grow within to heal together.

next

What makes me

a kickass 
therapist + coach?

QUESTION 1/4

Which do you find most soothing?

netflix, wine & chill

inbox zero

dismantling the patriarchy

V
M

QUESTION 3/4

I can't get enough...

queer eye

tarot decks

enneagram memes

self-care Style

 Quiz

click on your answer

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